Study on Marital Fighting Styles

Saw this article at Huffington Post and it caught my eye.

Marital Fighting Style: University of Michigan Study Predicts Divorce Based on How Couples Argue.

Basically. If you scream and yell, "destructive strategies", you're more likely to divorce.

If you calmly discuss the situation, look for solutions, "constructive strategies". . then you are more likely to stay married.

Go figure.

If one person is constructive, and the other avoidant (i.e. leaves the room, keeps quiet), it's bad for marriage.

Lesson learned: Stay in the room.

Marry Me by Train

love. this. song

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Hide the Quarters

My husband has been trying to hold the quarters (for the laundry, mind you) hostage until i perform a certain requested action.

I was like, you can have dirty laundry.

very serious

He told be I could have 50 centsz a "pop", if you will

I told him I could make WAYYY more than that on the street

I think he was joking

it was kinda funny the first time

then he hid the quarters and I was not as amused

Eating Dirt

Last night, my husband ordered special dirt from Utah TO EAT as a vitamin/supplement.

I am not making this up.

It will help him with meditating??

Added bonus: It's not just dirt, it's also fertilizer.

http://www.wheatgrasskits.com/azomite.htm


Hope you all have a great day. I'm off to Wal Mart to buy some Miracle Grow to make a smoothie for my husband while we wait for the dirt to arrive in the mail.

My Boiled Egg

Bill thinks he is a good guy because he bought himself a Reuben

and he stole a hard boiled egg from the salad bar for me

How is that even the same thing???

He went to get me some gin

He left his sammich on the table

Maybe I can eat it & leave him the egg?

Making Friends

last night my husband told me that just because we are married, it doesn't mean that I have to tell him all my emotions

Like, I need to find a friend to tell that stuff to

He already has enough of his own issues; he doesn't need mine too

Book Review: Find Your Strongest Life

In Find Your Strongest Life, Marcus Buckingham reveals how women can draw enough strength from life to feel fulfilled, loved, successful, and in control. He helps women reconnect with their purpose and gives a starting point for change. Marcus uses research to get his message across on how women can live their strongest life.

The basic message of the book is:

Most of us were taught by our parents and teachers that the secret to success is improving our weaknesses. As it turns out, this is completely wrong-headed. You can focus on your weaknesses all you want, but you will likely only make marginal improvements. However, if you will focus on your strengths—those things that you are naturally good at and come easily to you—you can make huge strides. In fact, when you do so, you will be more happy and fulfilled. Not only that, you will make your greatest contribution to the world.

In Find Your Strongest Life, Marcus reveals research that shows that women today are less happy and fulfilled than they were 40 years ago, despite having more opportunities available to them.

Preview the first 35 pages here

I found the book offered valuable insight. Marcus talks about how women try to "have it all", but he states "having it all" does not equate to having everything, at the same time. In the book Marcus states:

"Having it all" means taking yourself seriously. It means knowing yourself well enough to find your purpose in life. It means knowing what needs to change when you sense that you've lost that purpose. It means having the faith to believe that change is possible and having the courage to make those changes. It means drawing strength from the relationships in your life, and, if there's no strength to be drawn, knowing when to cut those relationships out of your life.